Wedding Do's and Don'ts

WEDDING DO's
1. Do make your wedding a joint venture between bride and groom. Some grooms just want to know what to wear and where and when to show up. Some brides want to call all the shots and make all the decisions. Make your decisions together - you will be doing this for the rest of your lives and this is a good place to start.

2. Do get everything that can get done in advance done as far in advance as you can. You don't want to discover the day before your wedding that you have forgotten to get your marriage license or that your dress isn't ready.

3. Though da wedding day is ur day and u have dream it for so long...BUT, always discuss ur concept with the vendor....coz ur dream wedding (etc colour and concept) might not suite you..the vendor is the expert..they have been doing it for so many years...it's their bread an butter.....open ur eyes, ear, heart and mind....dun be so stubborn and cocky just because u pay them....


4. Do let your ceremony reflect who you are as individuals and who you are as a couple. This can be done with the music, readings, vows and other personal stories and selections you make.

5. Always discuss and having at least monthly meeting with your family & frens....1 month towards your wedding day, make the meeting weekly....to keep everyone update and this is the time for you to reminf each others.....

6. Do delegate, delegate, delegate. Let other's help so when the week of the wedding arrives you have time to enjoy your guests and not arrive at your own wedding too tired to enjoy it.

7. For Muslims, if possible...do Solat Hajat to wish for the smoothness of your wedding reception...wish that all da guest are satisfied with food and leaving the reception with pleasant...doa semoga majlis tersebut dirahmati dan diberkati....ask your family to do it as well.....after all, kita hanya merancang, Allah yang tentukan.....


WEDDING DON'Ts
1. Don't think you have to spend more money on a wedding than it would cost you for a college education or a new house. Some of the most beautiful and meaningful ceremonies are in someone's back yard. It isn't about how much money you spend but about the love between you. Think about how you can avoid going into your marriage on the edge of bankruptcy.

2. Don't be shy about speaking up for yourselves. This is your wedding. Just because Aunt somebody-or-other had her bridesmaids in dresses that looked like those in My Big Fat Greek Wedding doesn't mean you have to do the same. Or because Uncle I-think-I-can-sing-but-can't wants to sing doesn't mean you have to let him. Tell them how much you love them and thank each of them for their wonderful offer with a gentle statement that you've already chosen the dresses and planned the music (or whatever)...

3. Don't Procrastinate. If you want a disaster the day before and the day of the wedding, just put things off. The more organized you are and the better you have delegated those "last minute" things, the more you will be able to participate in and enjoy wedding day.

4. Don't have unrealistic expectations about having everything perfect. Beautiful? Yes. Perfect is harder. Remember that this is a joyful celebration of love rather than an exercise in perfection. Most of us are not "practically perfect in every way" like Mary Poppins and we make mistakes. The mistake is generally the thing that gives you the fondest memories....